Every crime is different and will affect each family member differently. The emotions that one will feel can change drastically over time or very quickly. People respond in unique ways when faced with tragedy. Adversity often stirs strong emotions, evoking sadness, fear, frustration, and sometimes physical and psychological problems. There is no "right" way or prescribed time frame for responding to tragedy. However, if you or a loved one experiences a particular strong, unchanging emotion (sadness, anger, frustration, or withdrawal) or engages in self-destructive behavior for an extended period of time, it might be beneficial for you or your loved one to consult with someone who is experienced in helping people through crises. Some family members may not want to see or communicate with the inmate(s) and may need to focus on themselves first. Some may want/need to understand the legal system and what to expect. Some may want to be actively involved in the legal system and assisting the convicted family member. Some just want to be around others that understand them and will not judge them. Some may feel a desire to connect with the inmate and work on a relationship. Some do not want to do anything for many years. Some may just want to try and forget the entire ordeal. Some may want all of the above and more. Everyone has a different situation and everyone will have different emotions. Many times the families themselves may all feel differently and need to focus on individual feelings and emotions and may disagree with each other. You may feel all of this and much more and your feelings may change often.
We must begin to acknowledge and understand the psychological and physical damage these families and loved ones have experienced and will continue to experience for the remainder of their lives. Research is needed to find the short and long term effect on the families and society.